Be Kind to Your Pastor
David Sumner, Associate Professor of Journalism and Ball State University,
recently preached at a church on "How to be kind to your pastor." Good
food for thought.
1. Find and claim the ministry that the Lord has given you. Don't expect the
pastor (or priest) to do all of the ministry.
2. The pastor is your pastor and spiritual leader. He (she) isn't your employee.
Don't ask the pastor to do things you can do for yourself.
3. Let the pastor use his/her spiritual gifts to lead the church. The pastor
shouldn't have to paint the church, print the bulletin, etc.
4. Become proactive evangelists. It's not the shepherd's task to multiply the
flock. Sheep are better at their own reproduction.
5. Ministers do not read minds, have 20/20 vision or perfect hearing. They do
not know what you are thinking or that you are unhappy unless you tell them.
6. If you have something to tell the pastor, tell the pastor—not a spouse or
family member. Don't expect them to relay messages.
7. Don't call the pastor at home unless absolutely necessary.
8. Provide feedback and reaction on the sermon. Don't just say "I enjoyed
the sermon" as you walk out the door.
9. Say thank you often; give compliments often.
10. Be a friend; talk about everyday things. You don't have to be
"religious" all the time around the pastor.
11. If you need to seek counseling from the pastor, do so but recognize his/her
limitations and boundaries. Make appointments and keep them.
12. Ministers need ministry, too. If a pastor loses his mother, he will grieve
like anyone else. Pastor the pastor.
13. Support the pastor's day off. Don't make requests of that day (George's is
Monday).
14. Give the pastor at least two weeks of paid continuing education leave every
year.
15. Do not expect the pastor to do everything equally well. If the pastor messes
up on something, cut him or her some slack.
16. Make sure the pastor's salary at least equals the average salary in the
congregation. Give a housing allowance instead of a house.